I stopped wearing my favorite perfume after I left him. I found out it had been discontinued and my bottle was running low. I thought to myself “save it for something special”. I couldn’t figure out just what that was, but I didn’t want it to go to waste on any old day, and that’s exactly how everyday had began to feel.
Weeks later I was still waiting for that “something special”. My best friend grabbed my wrist in excitement after I spritzed myself before we went out to breakfast and said “is that my favorite stuff?” she turned away and said “oh no” and continued getting ready.
The thing I realized right then is that as silly as it sounds to be so attached to a scent it still feels like a part of me, a part of my past. And when it’s gone, it’s gone… but that’s okay, because I will still be here when the perfume runs out. And so will the memories.
So life goes on even after our favorite scent no longer exists. We can’t wait for something fabulous to do a key thing we used to do for ourselves everyday. That’s the funny thing about women sometimes… We think we should sit and wait for the bus when really we need to slip on our comfiest flats and run after it before it drives away from us. Life’s too short to sit around waiting, smelling, and feeling like anything but ourselves. So I am done waiting for unmade plans, and I’m finally ready to use every last drop.
I must have missed something… you broke up with someone recently? That’s always hard. But even though Thing X might remind you of someone else, all things and places should remind you of YOU at least 50%, right? Make them yours completely
Yes I did, I left my boyfriend I was living with. I have to agree 100% with you on that one. I am ready to move forward & continue using the things that I used when we were togther:)
Absolutely! Things are things, and they can have many different memories associated with them.
Also, you’ll find someone soon. The highest amount of romantic love-based relationships that can work out is one, after all.
My Bailey, you are a constant source of positive vibes! Love how you can always see the silver lining to any dark cloud. What’s the perfume that was discontinued? I’ve been there, I left my ex 3 years ago and left everything just to have my freedom back, hard times for sure BUT that experience has helped build character and shown me what a truly “bad” day was. Now everyday I smile, and everyday is better than the last. I’m sure once this heartache passes, you’ll be in the same boat!
Thank you so much, I’m truly trying! It’s a silly little body spray from Bath & Body works — coconut & vanilla:) Wow, I can’t imagine how difficult that was. Isn’t it amazing how we can so easily become trapped by someone we thought we could be safe with? You’re very right about knowing what a “bad” day is, this breakup has put things into perspective for me. I’m so glad that you are doing so well and kicking ass as a strong & independent woman! Can’t let people get you down for too long right:)