Made To Love

 

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Alright people I’m just going to make this simple. I love to love. I truly feel like I as an individual was made to love. Some have told me that’s not really a “thing” but I like to think otherwise. It is my strongest (and at times it has been my weakest) trait.

I always have and always will firmly believe that when in doubt you just have to add a little love to it. So I do. Every single day I make it a point to say “I love you” to someone in my life without even speaking those three words. With time I’ve learned that there are so many ways that you can say I love you, it just comes down to whether or not the receiving individual is able to hear it. 

So, lets take a break from that discussion so that I can make a quick point about today: It’s really kind of weird to me that people who are single get so down on themselves on Valentines day. Is the day not about love? Do you not have any in your life? If not, create it. Self-love, google it. Family and friends? Yah go squeeze the shit out of them, it feels really good I promise. Love is so much more than flowers, chocolate, and diamonds on a random day in February. Don’t dwell on the fact that it may be lacking. Just make it happen. You deserve it.

So, since today is “love-day” I vow to celebrate the ridiculous amount that I am blessed to have in my life. My family and friends make my world go ’round. And I’m going to do my very best to remind them of that.

So if and when you feel kind of bummed today do this: Slow down, take a big deep breath, focus on what you have and repeat after me: life is not about what I can get, it is about what I can give. 

And hopefully your heart will feel a little lighter, your world a bit brighter, and your soul will stir with ideas of how you can bring more love into the peoples lives around you. Which, in the most badass way ever, will bring more love into your life in return. How about that for a thought? It’s a win-win babe. I’m tellin’ ya. Love is kind of magical like that. So please, have a beautiful day, kick ass, hug lots of peeps alright?

All my love, cheesy thoughts (and 20-something thoughts) on love until next time,

XOXO, B

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Anais Nin

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“My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace with exactly who and what I am. To take pride in my thoughts, my appearance, my talents, my flaws and to stop this incessant worrying that I can’t be loved as I am.” -Anais Nin

Remember Why You Started

Hey all, I hope you’re having a beautiful weekend so far. I spent my Friday night in the gym with my best friend, we worked hard and laughed harder. And as I was breathing through my latest challenge (perfecting the deadlift) I looked at myself in the mirror and figured out why I was really there.

I’ve noticed that most 20-somethings are in the gym to see quick results. They do whatever it takes to get that perky booty, toned stomach, wee arms, and the infamous “thigh gap” (which I hate, but that’s another story. Click here for my opinion on that) And I’ll be honest, a year ago I was that girl. But I’m so grateful for my experience in the gym these last 2 months because it has drastically changed my view of what fit and healthy really means. 

When I go to the gym I focus, I compete with the person I was the day before, and I have fun. I am gentle with myself when I am not quite understanding something new for the first few times, and I am hard on myself when my body says “give up” and my mind says “try one more time“.

At the beginning of this journey my goals were not healthy. I wanted to look good for a trip we’re planning in January that calls for bikini’s and sundresses. But something clicked and I realized that I’m not there 6 days a week to have skinny arms to flaunt at the bar or while I’m on vacation. My reasons go much deeper than that because they’ll effect my life, and those in it, years from now.

I want strong arms so that I can swoop my nephew up and squeeze him tight when we’re playing. So that it’s not as much of a challenge to carry things like groceries up the stairs to my apartment. I want to be strong so that I can defend myself if I ever found myself in a scary situation. And so that in May when it’s time for me to move I wont have to rely on so many people for help (and wine to recover;)

The strength I am working so hard for is for myself. So that I can have a lifetime of good health & fitness instead of simply working towards a slim body for the holidays or sporadic vacations on the beach.

And I am many years away from this part of my life, but I work hard now so that one day I can be a strong momma to my children. I want to be a good example of happiness & health for them. I want to be able to keep up with them when they are being stinkers & booking it as fast as they can away from me ;) & I want to be emotionally strong, which is what focusing on loving and nurturing my body does for me.

I will continue to run races, compete and complete spartans, and stay active. I want to be a fun auntie, a daughter who can help with big projects, a girlfriend who can do her own heavy lifting, a self-lover, and someday I hope to be a mom who can keep up with my quick and curious kids.

So when I walk into the gym on a Friday night or an early weekday before work I will forget what society says, I will brush any self-doubt aside, and I’ll remember why I started. And I think that’s pretty powerful.

“A woman is often measured by things she cannot control. She is measured by the way her body curves or doesn’t curve. By where she is flat, or straight, or round. She is measure by 36-24-36 and inches and ages and numbers, by all the outside things that don’t ever add up to who she is on the inside. And so if a woman is to be measured, let her be measured by the things she can control, by who she is trying to become. Because every woman knows measurements are only statistics, and statistics lie.” -Nike

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Detox Bath

Trying to get back to reality after a beautiful week long vacation has been more difficult than I expected. Life is so good, but getting back into my routine has been a little draining! I’m sure many of you can relate. I’m a rookie when it comes to traveling, but I have high hopes that I’ll get better at it with time. Lets just say that as I left work today I thought to myself “it’s a damn good thing there isn’t a drop of wine in my house right now.” because I would have rushed home + drank it. All of it. In a serious way.

Instead I unpacked, cleaned my house, did laundry, had dinner + ran myself a detox bath. I try + do this 1-2 times a week. It’s so easy to forget that our skin is one giant organ that taking care of it can truly add to the quality of our lives. It’s that time of the year where everyone is battling the nasty Fall time flu. This is one of my favorite ways to stay healthy, happy, and flu-free.

Detox Bath

The apple cider vinegar is great when you need to re-energize + “reset” your body. If you’ve been drinking often, eating processed food, or you just have some unhealthy habits this will help draw the toxins out of your body + start the cleansing process. The ACV will neutralize your bodies pH + also help your skin adjust to the weather change (it helps my acne as well… who doesn’t want that?)

Epsom salt has been a big part of my life for years. When I was playing soccer competitively my mum would run me a hot bath with Epsom salt to relieve stress, muscle tension, and even bring comfort for menstrual cramps. Do your research on it, there is so much to learn about how our bodies benefit from it!

When I smell lavender I go to my happy place. It’s such a soothing smell + I enjoy adding it to my bath, lotion, or just dabbing some directly on my wrists when I feel tense. My co-workers catch me practically making it rain lavender at my desk when I get overwhelmed. Plus it’s much safer than the hyped up chemicals they put in some bubble bath soaps + “bath bombs”

Add your favorite candle + slow jams (yup, slow jams) or a book + voila! You’re happy as a peach. I usually only soak for 30 minutes. Always, always keep lots of cold water next to you while you take your bath. Some people can get overheated + faint… take this seriously by listening to what your body is telling you. Afterwards I rinse off in the shower so that I don’t smell like a lavender-cider salad.

Enjoy my loves. I hope you find your balance in this detox bath like I have. Oh and avoid having a snotty nose… lets be real, ain’t nobody got time for that.

XOXO, Bailey Mikell

Set The Standard

Yesterday was an off day for me so I took a bath & crawled into bed early. I didn’t set an alarm and it felt nice to rise when my body was ready. I woke up and made myself a healthy breakfast including a detox smoothie (you can find the recipe here)

I’m a firm believer in pampering yourself once in a while. I realize it’s hard to do & often you can feel guilt. I used to think things like “I should be working & being productive” or “I don’t deserve this” but that is incorrect. We must treat ourselves not cheat ourselves. So this afternoon I’m going to the spa to see Christine for a facial & chemical peel. She does an incredible job and I always leave feeling very relaxed.  I’ll spend the rest of my day running errands and soaking up me time.

My health & well-being rely on days like this and I feel very grateful that I am able to slow down and realize when my mind, body and soul need to be polished. Although I love making a girls day out of these things I also find peace in doing them on my own. It is my time to get lost in my thoughts & enjoy the moment. Diane Von Furstenberg put it perfectly by saying “When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.”

The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. So have a beautiful day my loves, and be sure to celebrate & embrace yourself xoxo, B

Where Love Resides

How can we give so much attention to the tint of our lips & the shape our hips when the quality of our heart is what truly remains at the end of the day? When beauty fades & the soul emerges what will we have to show if our energy is directed towards our image, and our intention is to impress instead of progress?

Indie Arie put it perfectly…

“I am not my hair
I am not this skin
I am not your expectations no, no
I am not my hair 
I am not this skin 
I am a soul that lives within”

I encourage you to go to sleep with big dreams & rise with a purpose. And to dress yourself with love, respect, and a basic understanding that you are much more than what the mirror will ever be able to reflect. Don’t be so hard on yourself darling, you are beautiful.

All my love & wonder, B

Protect Her Fiercely

“Picture yourself when you were five. In fact, dig out a photo of little you at that time and tape it to your mirror. How would you treat her, love her, feed her? How would you nurture her if you were the mother of little you? I bet you would protect her fiercely while giving her space to spread her itty-bitty wings. She’d get naps, healthy food, imagination time, and adventures into the wild. If playground bullies hurt her feelings, you’d hug her tears away and give her perspective. When tantrums or meltdowns turned her into a poltergeist, you’d demand a loving time-out in the naughty chair. From this day forward I want you to extend that same compassion to your adult self.”
― Kris Carr
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